Be Present....


I was looking at the writing prompts for this week’s link up on Mama Kats Losin It, and one of the ideas was to write a post inspired by the word BABY. You would think that would be an easy one for this blog, EVERYTHING I write about is inspired by baby... As I was trying to come up with a new baby related topic, I realized that not just my blog, but my whole life is inspired by my babies. They are the best thing to ever happen to my Husband and me. Every day is a blessing and I am so incredibly lucky.

But that does not mean that we can’t make things better, to be better. To be more present. To be more aware of what we are saying and doing. To teach our babies to be kind.

I admit, I spend way too much time on my phone. I run my entire life off that phone, everything from email, to our schedule, to blogging. When I am in school I even do 90% of my course work from my phone. But when you find your 21 month old baby taking your phone and trying to hide it in the toy box... that tells you something. It’s not like I am ignoring them and playing on my phone, it’s when they are busy doing something else and Mommy likes to multi-task, but still... like I said in my most recent Shedding The Baby Weight Excuses are like Bum-Bums, everybody has them...

The point is, every time Oliver takes my phone and hides it, he is telling me that he wants more attention, and that he is present. Even if it seems like he is totally engrossed in his toy, if he knows I am only half there, that means he is more aware of me than I am of him, and that is just not ok.

I think as parents we can take for granted just how much our children see and what they take in. Just because they are little does not mean that they do not understand what is going on around them, in fact, I think children take in more than we do. They are so sensitive to a simple tone. Parenting is not always easy and can be stressful at times. It’s so important to remember how we are talking and what our body language is saying, our babies can and will pick up on it. It isn’t always easy, but being mindful of these things will not only benefit our children, but our other relationships as well. By just being careful about how I am speaking to my Husband in front of the twins, I am starting to be nicer to him. I’m not saying that I am mean to my Husband or anything, but like all marriages, we do not always see eye to eye on everything. If my normal reaction would be to snap at him or to get stressed out, I am being careful to pause, think about my words and my tone, and then speaking. This is helping our marriage, bringing us closer together, and of course teaching the boys how to communicate.

It is not easy, it takes work, and sometimes I fail. That is ok though. I have to learn it is fine to not be perfect. The point is that I am trying, and this is going to help my children. A mom that is 100% there instead of only half there is better. A mom that treats their father with courtesy and respect is going to help them. As they grow, they will learn to be present and in the now. To focus on what is truly important, and to treat others with courtesy and respect.

It really just takes one person to make an effort to teach their children to live their lives like this, but if we all focus on our families, before you know it, we are living in a nicer, kinder, more morally sound society.

Wouldn't that be nice?



Get in on the link up too!
Share on Google Plus

About Amara Franklin

If I have said it once, I have said it a thousand times... I LOVE MY LIFE. I have a great husband and the best little baby dudes in the world! I have found that raising twins is not so different than a singleton, just a little bit louder (and a lot more fun!). I look forward to going through this journey together... SUPER MOMS UNITE!

0 comments:

Post a Comment

I love to hear your thoughts, advice, and feedback. Please leave me a comment! XOXO

MiraclesComeInPairs. Powered by Blogger.